Stepping On A Land Mine

A few years ago when I was still occupied with my day job, I didn’t have the time to manage my blog. But I was active on forums, sharing my thoughts and interacting with fellow users. There was this incident wherein I got into a heated discussion about WordPress versus Blogspot with a poster who was a devout Blogspot user.

It offended me when I made an effort to explain to him why I chose WordPress, and he goes rebutting “I didn’t read that long reply”. It’s so unprofessional and as a full-time blogger, he even had wrong grammar while we were responding to each other and he eventually called me names and such. The thread was going off-topic although my purpose in that thread was to educate the users who were looking to use either tool.

Admittedly, I responded emotionally back then while pointing out my views. Reflecting on this now, I would have said “It is pointless talking to you as you are a close-minded on this topic and you don’t care what other bloggers have to say. I don’t know what you’re going through, but I wish you well in your blogging career.” And that would be the end of the discussion.

Why stress yourself out over minute stuff that doesn’t matter in the long run?

If you find yourself in the same situation, you have the power to walk away. Don’t spend energy on someone who is not open enough to receive what you have to offer, may it be an advice, an opinion or any kind of help. If their mind is set on stone, then whatever you say, regardless of your motive, will not change anything.

In our everyday lives, we would always encounter battles where there are land mines everywhere, wasting your time and resources.

Did I just step on a land mine?

Yes, because two years later, that experience didn’t matter anymore. I wouldn’t have caused myself negative emotions if I learned how to choose which battle to fight. Because sometimes, it’s just a land mine disguised as a battle. You have bigger and more important stuff to focus on.

What are you really fighting for? What are your motives? By distinguishing that, you would now know where to direct your effort and time to. Always choose your battles, darling.

8 thoughts on “Stepping On A Land Mine”

  1. There are people that are closed-minded. Just don’t get to the point that you’ll be like them. Keep the positivity flowing. Looking forward for more posts 🙂

  2. Believe me, that sort of stuff happens somewhat daily for me but I am learning to realize that I don’t have control over it and that, it doesn’t matter in the long run. I always try to be neutral in my tone but regardless, I still try even if people fault me for things I didn’t say or even imply. In the end, just keep doing what you’re doing and knowing that you’re better than all the drama that comes your way.

  3. Very true, which is something I struggle with. I’ve often gotten into arguments (online and offline) where honestly, does it matter? I guess its better just to walk away even if it does annoy you. At least for the small stuff that doesn’t matter really.

  4. Ugh, that guy is super close minded. It reminds me of the time I actually had an argument about WordPress because someone was saying it’s old fashioned (it probably is a bit dated) and how I shouldn’t be using it. I told him I actually enjoy using it and creating themes for it but kept shooting me down for it which really annoyed me. At the end of the day, making his wind me up wasn’t worth the effort at all and where the mindset “always choose your battles” comes in really nicely. YOU ARE SO RIGHT!

    Loved this post Senyth, awesome to have you back into the blogging world! Missed your posts ?

  5. Very interesting post and also very relevant. I have also learned over the years that I don’t always have to react to everything, that my emotional energy is limited and I have to choose properly on which things to apply it to. It’s especially more difficult on the internet, since there are a lot of people with so many different opinions, and it’s so hard to ignore opinions which you don’t agree with on subjects that matter to you personally or subjects that you hold dear — from politics to simple, small interests (like fandoms). It’s difficult still, but more than ever, I always try to think ahead, take a step back, and think whether or not the dipping my foot into it is worth my time and energy, is positively productive and fruitful, and is good in the long run. 🙂

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