Should You Care What Other People Think Of You?

You got out of work, feeling positive as the sun is still up and you’ve accomplished more than enough in a day. You walk towards the jeepney stop and came across a group of snickering highschool boys, wearing faded, murky shirts, shorts and slippers. You feel their eyes on you and they laughed as you walked past them. You hear one of them say ‘what an ugly face’.

You almost stopped dead in your tracks, feeling crushed, and your happiness sucked out of you. You suddenly feel small and ugly. Maybe you should consider surgery, maybe it’s your teeth that make you look unattractive, maybe it’s your almost always closed eyes or your large nose. You suddenly don’t want to go out and meet people because of fear of being criticized and mocked. Who are they to judge you? You now feel angry. Angry at them, angry at yourself and even perhaps at your kin.

STOP! Who are those guys anyway? Do they matter in your life? While you’re analyzing what they just said, they might be already nitpicking at someone else they just passed by.

They don’t care about you or anyone and neither should you. Being stuck on something that was as trivial as that would do you no good. It’s one thing to listen to constructive criticism and another to care too much about everyone’s thoughts about you. As the old adage says, “You can’t please everybody” and it still holds true until now.

Here are my simple steps to not care about what other people think of you:

  • Be confident – once you’ve overcome your self-doubt, you will learn that you don’t need anyone’s approval in order to feel good about yourself. You are your own best judge! Other people can’t make you feel inferior, unless you let them.
  • Stop over thinking – perhaps the person who said something negative towards you didn’t even realize it or didn’t mean it. Learn to control your thoughts and emotions. You cannot control people, but you can control how you react to them and feel about situations.
  • Be comfortable in your own skin – accept yourself for who you are. Insecurity stems from comparing yourself to someone else. If you find that there are things about you that you don’t like, change them for the better.
  • Learn that the world does not revolve around you – instead of trying to be perfect in the eyes everyone, focus on doing the things that mean the most to you. They too have other worries and troubles in life.

8 thoughts on “Should You Care What Other People Think Of You?”

  1. Baby baby baby! Dili siguru ikaw gi-ingnan babe, kagwapa ra nimo. koreana look gud ka! 🙂 there are just some people that are too shallow, too busy judging on the outside, when it fact physical beauty will soon wear out except the attitude.. 🙂 lol hehe. 😉

    1. @chai,

      Tama, Chai! Kahibaw man pud ko gwapa ko BWAHAHA. This does not apply only to physical appearance, but also sa ato mga decisions. Naa uban mu-manipulate nimo if you listen to them. I think sila jud ang insecure. Crab mentality, anyone? Hehe.

      Thanks sa compliment, Chai! 😉

  2. Here’s what I learned. If you’re at peace with your inner self… then there is nothing on the outside that can ever bother you. It’s not that you stop caring either. Yung “I don’t care” attitude, It kinda sounds bitter to be honest. Reality is we do care, what other people say… but the thing is “I care… but not that much”. Not to the point that I will let it bother or affect me. 😛

  3. Bravo! Great post. And yes, sometimes people are just bullies and do things out of spite. They don’t know you and you don’t them. Focus on the positive and you’ll soon forget the hateful words. Looking forward to more uplifting and positive posts from you 🙂

  4. Confidence is really important. When I was in my teens, I was the shy-just-staying-in-the-corner-waiting-to-be-called type. In college, I had a boost of self-esteem and improved myself. Thanks God I am so much better now!! 🙂

  5. Well, i dont care about what other people say’s about me.
    Sino ba sila.. I have my/we own life. So
    kanya kanya lang yan.. Just be confident.

  6. I love the last tip! That’s actually true. Some people get too conscious thinking that other people around are minding him/her and maybe thinking badly of him/her. Most of the time, we just imagine this XD Maybe when you walk by and some people giggled or something, it wasn’t because of how you look like but because they were actually talking about something funny unrelated to you.. And we’re just paranoids XD

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